"Pressure."

Everyone is under pressure in this society. We feel the need to be skinny/buff, short/tall, great at sports, better at this or that, or to be in a relationship. We may see all of our friends in a relationship and feel like the odd person out; or a loner. We may see our best friend or sibling/younger relative in what seems to be a loving relationship and it puts the pressure on us to have a partner. Therefore, we may feel as if we're not good enough. Is all of this pressure forcing us to be in relationships we don't want to be in? Is this making us feel like we are not good enough to be with someone? Is this bringing on, as one of my friends commonly refers to, ADD? Another Dating Disaster? 

All of this pressure brings on side effects. We may become stressed out or depressed, and we tend to be more vulnerable to rude remarks towards ourselves. We become more sensitive, or in some cases, all of the stress seems to build up inside us, held together by a fake smile and a couple "I'm alright, I'm just really tired. I only slept for about three hours." This builds up until we have a mental breakdown, or a night where we end up crying ourselves to sleep.  For many people dealing with this situation, they may feel lost, or as if no one understands them. It's amazing how one small issue can lead to so many [big] things. If you're currently struggling with this, I know how you feel. I felt the same way when my love for Lucas was much stronger. I felt so insecure, that I would feel as if I wasn't good enough for anyone...that I was just a nobody. I felt as if I was too fat, ugly, dark, etc. I felt that maybe if I had blue eyes instead of black and a lighter skin tone, that maybe...just maybe, Lucas would fall for me. If it weren't for the help of my friends, writing, and music, I wouldn't have brought myself back onto my feet. I now realize that I am who I am for a reason, and if anyone has a problem with it, then I will gladly hold the door open that leads them out of my life. However, don't expect me to keep it open; I hope it hits you where the sun don't shine! While you're at it, I hope you fall down a flight of stairs, too. However, a lot of people don't feel this way. Some take it harder than others. It doesn't matter how bad you have it, it's a matter of how well you can handle it. In this case, for example, if someone is already being bullied or treated very poorly or with neglect, then they might take this situation much harder on themselves. Being under the pressure of having to be in a relationship is a serious thing. The good part to all of these negative things is that when you do enter a partnership, you will (hopefully) realize that maybe you are good enough. Maybe you are skinny or pretty enough to find someone. Maybe your personality and who you are is perfect to your partner. "There will always be that girl who is prettier, skinnier, and somewhat better at most things than you. You just have to find the person who doesn't care."-Unknown. 

If you're looking for a straight up answer, here it is: you are good enough, as far as I know there is nothing wrong with you, and if you're not supposed to be in a relationship, you're just not meant to be in one at the moment. Don't worry if you're not with someone...fate is looking down at you and saying "You're special. I'm saving you for someone you deserve. Someone who will treat you right, respect you, love you, and want to be with you. Just be patient." So don't worry about not being in a relationship, because I'm sure that pretty soon, that special someone will walk into your life for better or for worse. Until then, live life as if it were your last day, sing as if it's the last song you'll ever sing, dance as if you'll never walk again, and love as if you could never love again. Don't stress too much. Everything will be alright in the end.