"9-1-1"

I'm not going to sugar coat a lemon, but no matter what, there will always be that person that we just never feel good enough for. Either you're too tall/short, too ugly, too annoying, or too everything. You'll feel like no matter what you do, you're not good enough. In a relationship, there's always that one person who cares more than the other. Unless I am told otherwise, it seems to me that the person who cares the most is the one who is also the most insecure. Currently, a good friend of mine, Bella, is facing the same situation with her boyfriend Isaac. She always feels like she is not good enough. It seems to her that the popular kids that Isaac talk to are obviously prettier, skinnier, funnier, more athletic, more beautiful than her, etc. Bella doesn't understand how drop dead gorgeous she is. She thinks that she's fat because of her well-built figure due to however many years of being on a great swim team. She thinks that just because her boyfriend is a little bit more social with the wannabe Snookies, that she just isn't good enough. She thinks that in his eyes, she is worthless, empty, flat, ugly, annoying, and clingy. She doesn't fully believe that when he says "love you" he fully means it, or at least loves her as much as she does for him. She believes that "I love you" has more meaning and feelings in it than "love you", which under some circumstances, is true. She tells herself that Isaac will never love her as much as she'll ever love him. It seems that she is desperately calling for help...that she is constantly dialing the 9-1-1 Emergency Dating Hotline, or in her mind, me.

Where Bella is coming from seems to happen a lot in relationships, if I'm not mistaken. What do we do in a situation like this? Do we confront our partner? Or do we hide it and put on a fake smile? Here's the best thing I can tell you from my point of view: tell them. After all, what is a relationship without trust and communication? It's more like a relation-[crap]; if you know what I mean. If they decide to say comforting things and assure you that even if things don't work out, they think you're perfect. Or, they might say something like "If I didn't think of you the way I really do, why would I be with you? You're perfect to me, no matter what anyone else says." That is, if they're not a liar and/or cheater. Or, like anything else in the world, something could go wrong. As much as I hate to be the bearer of bad news, he/she could be rude and a total jerk. He/she could say that he's done dating someone who's insecure, or that you really need to overcome your insecurities; that you're just fishing for compliments. Maybe you are fishing for compliments, I don't know. Maybe you're not. The point is, you should really confront your partner. Hope for the best but expect the worst, and (once again....), believe that everything happens for a reason. I know I am extremely annoying with the fate thing, but I cannot stress how important it is; or at least how important it is to me. 

All I am left to say is that I'm currently facing the same issue with Lucas, so I know how you feel. What you seriously need to do is look in the mirror, then say "hey...it didn't break. I'm beautiful.". Step on the scale, then say "It didn't say 'ERROR'...I'm perfectly fine." Then finally, look down at whomever you have the greatest friend/family member/etc. in which you have mutual trust and care with and think "I'm not alone...wow." If you can't think of that person, you're probably not thinking hard enough. No matter what you may be dealing with or no  matter how you currently feel (emotionally), there's always someone who loves you and there's always someone who cares about you. You may not know it, but I promise you, there is. You just have to accept who you are as a person, and believe that this is who you're supposed to be, and this is what is supposed to happen. I hope that this made at least a small (good) effect on how you currently feel, and that you will make the right decision not for others, but for yourself. I also wish you a "survive the new year", because obviously there will be sadness and pain throughout the year. I wish you all good luck in all aspects of life.