"Twist Of Fate."

In a modern day society, it has become almost trendy to worry yourself too much ... Especially for people in relationships. It seems that no matter what you do, there's always that "what if" inextricably linked to almost everything. There are countless things that people fixate on when in a relationship. What if (s)he hasn't fallen for me like I have for them - Am I setting myself up for total heartbreak and failure? What if (s)he cancelled on me not because they're busy, but because they couldn't be bothered to spend the evening with me? And let us not forget the typical female concern of as to whether or not I am fat (That thought always seems to haunt us girls regardless of just about anything these days)...

Basically, no matter how hard we really try to avoid it, "what if" just always makes its' presence known in our everyday lives. I'm here to tell you this my friends : Try seeing it in a different perspective and lessen your unnecessary worries. Everything happens for a reason, correct? One thing leads to another, so what's the point in worrying so much? 'Fate' is said to be what inevitably constructs our lives ... So, in the aftermath of anxiety, depression and stress, we'll be lead to the ending that just does it for us, am I right?

Although, I'm fully aware that when in a moment of despair, it's challenging to see things in such an easy perspective. Fate has set up quite the obstacle course ... It's called 'life'. If it had not been for the events of yesterday and all the days prior, you wouldn't be where it is that you are now. If it hadn't been for then and now, you wouldn't get to where it is you'll be tomorrow and the days after it. See things in a more positive manner rather than negative, then can you strive to be the best you possible, eventually leading yourself to a life that you always desired. =)

"Now Leaving : Friend-Zone."

Friend-zone: the wonderful feeling when you continuously show your best friend that you love and care about them and want a future with them, even when the other person understands all of this and she/he acts like they like you when they really just want to be friends. In other words, friend-zone sucks. No one wants to be friend-zoned,  but unfortunately, it happens every single day. For those who don't quite understand what friend-zone is yet, it's when you show and/or tell the person you really like that you really like them, yet they still choose to see you as a friend. However, what happens when you finally leave the friend-zone? Well, I can tell you this, my friends: it can be great but deadly.

Allow me to explain. I have been friends with a kid named Patrick for about a year or two now. He is funny, playful, optimistic, warmhearted, etc. He has been sending me signals for a while now that he really likes me and sees so much more than other people see. For a long time, I ignored this. I was crushing on a kid who I obviously had no chance with. I had a better chance of hooking up with Josh Farro or Ted DiBiase than this guy (lead guitarist for Paramore and WWE wrestler). Anyway, about a week ago, I finally realized that all I was hoping for in the guy I liked was already in Patrick. It was then when I realized that I had friend-zoned a great guy who loved me for who I was and saw my imperfections as beauties. I then risked all of the friendship we had by going out with him. So far, I'm so glad I did. We are hanging out more, the jokes are funnier, we can be ourselves around each other, and we never take anything too personal.

With all of the benefits of dating someone you've friend-zoned, there comes the deadly part. There's that fear that if the partnership hits a down-point, you may be putting every ounce of friendship you had in great danger and then losing it all. Also, there's the criticism of others that may occur in any relationship that puts a great amount of pressure on you and your partner. You have people making fun of you because maybe you're a girl and you're a lot taller than your boyfriend, which happens to be the case in my situation. Also, the criticism may be more offending such as differences in skin color; also an issue with Patrick and I.  Maybe you're Italian or Hispanic or African American, and your girlfriend/boyfriend is Irish or Asian or Caucasian. People tend to make unnecessary comments about these things and it can cause couples feel insecure about their relationship. 

Despite the disadvantages of dating your best friend, just think of the positives. Hopefully you're happy in the relationship, hopefully you're faithful, and hopefully, the other person in the commitment feels the same. If something wasn't meant to happen, it wouldn't have happened. If something is supposed to happen, it will. If something is/or was meant to be, it is/was meant to be. On the other hand, by dating that person, you have just made them the happiest person alive. However, If you don't have complete feelings for that person, I suggest you let him/her know so you can both work something out. If you  think you do, but you're just not sure, I would just take it slow. Leaving the friend-zone is great, but remember; follow your heart, but don't leave your head behind. I wish you the best of luck, and I just want to wish everyone a Happy (early) Thanksgiving, also! Have a great time with the loved ones, and don't forget to be thankful for everything you have in life. Including that special someone that you hold near and dear to your heart. I wish you all great happiness and hope, and great luck in any (if any) future relationships. =)

---Also, I hope to get back onto a solid track, such as posting every other Friday. I am still open to any comments/advice/suggestions that you all may have.

"The Paranormal Attraction."

What's a gal to do, in the stressful event that a guy she called it off with six months ago, still won't budge in letting that relationship go and further moving on? You were the one to call it off with him, yet he's the one who perpetually keeps crawling back to you. What are you to do in this predicament? Even more importantly, where are you to go?

Here's just a free thought, when a relationship unfortunately dies, are we just doomed to being forever haunted by the spirits of the relationships' past? Could we ever really give up the ghost of what could have been or will it always come back to haunt us in some way? The answer to all of these questions is likely yes. If that person truly has feelings for you and you simply have just nothing to offer in return, there's nothing you can really do about it. I know it may hurt to see someone else in pain because you are missing from their life and solely because of you in general, but it's just something you both will have to learn to deal with and accept.

It's just a part of life after all. Fate can be one of these two things : blatantly cruel and downright harsh, or pleasing and absolutely terrific. This would be the cruel part of fate making its presence known, if you couldn't already tell, which I have gone over numerous times in my latest postings here. This type of situation may be sad and depressing now, but hey sooner or later, you will find someone or something to relieve you of the stress being brought about. Perhaps it may be a Nicki Minaj or Nickelback song, your best friend, even a cousin, or a sister, etc. But one way or another, you will overcome the scenario, regardless of how unbelievable that may appear now. As always I really hope this helps you, and if it unfortunately doesn't, I'm truly sorry. Just hang in there as I promise you things will get better. They always seem to do. It is only the way of the world. =)

"Lost, But Found."

Everyone has misplaced something before. There's no doubt about it. Whether it's your car keys, an expensive watch, your important wallet, a valued piece of jewelry, or maybe even your mind at one point in time. But eventually you retrieved it, right? Well, it's actually the exact same concept with relationships...

No matter who you are, you've had good and you've had bad relationships. Whether you've had those relationships where you dated the person solely to make them happy, or if there was a complication with cheating, in the end, we made it out alright and perhaps even stronger and more wise, am I right? We must've reached a point, where either we've felt blissfully amazing and worthy and where we've felt like nothing could take us down, or when we felt like absolutely nothing in the entire world could have been more special and wonderful ; Maybe we've even felt that without the comfort and/or support of a boyfriend/girlfriend! On the contrary, we've all felt something awful, too. Like catching the other person in the act of cheating, or maybe we've even entered an unhealthy relationship that consisted of emotional, mental or even physical abuse. Maybe we've entered a relationship where we once thought that the other person accepted us and loved us for who we were, but in actuality, that person was doing the complete opposite when our backs were turned. But either way, we've successfully made it through all of that, no? No matter what, we must have entered a little stage where life was just fantastic. Whether it was for a day, for a week, for a month, or even for a whole year or two. We've successfully gotten over at least one big hill yet, yes?

I find fate truly amazing. Everything happens for a reason. Everything. Think about it. If you had not met certain people along the way, your life definitely wouldn't be the way it is now. If you hadn't dated that one person who completely crushed you and tore your heart simply to shreds, you wouldn't know what to do in a situation similar to the one that happened. Or things could have had nothing to do with relationships, but it still somehow inevitably leads you to have great future relationships. Although it could also lead you to have absolutely horrific future relationships, those horrific relationships still somehow lead to even greater ones. Lets say you were abused as a child. Emotionally/Mentally/Physically. You thought that, that one person would save you and make you happy and feel wanted in this cruel world we live in. You thought that you weren't meant to be with anyone but them. But things changed. That person wasn't what you thought they were, and they completely crushed you. Either your family and/or friends helped you overcome that pitiful relationship, or perhaps even something you read online proved to be a help in the situation, such as blogs or quotes. That relationship somehow still made you stronger in the end, as did the one that was after that, etc. Everything happens for a reason you've got to believe that, and when things do happen, the overall outcome is what you strive for because it brings pure happiness and joy to your life.

With all of this said, in the conclusion, at one point, we will certainly overcome all those issues and problems that seem to weigh us down a whole lot. Because we will marry that one person who brings meaning to our lives that's filled with true love, who will never fail to make you feel like the greatest person in the world. You will both wholeheartedly love each other unconditionally, and want to be together forever and always. You will be eternally there for eachother through sickness and in health, for richer or for poor, till death does you part...and all of that other mushy and wedding-ey stuff. Even if everything goes wrong, you have at least felt that way before, and you just couldn't say that you didn't. That's where this little thing called fate comes into play. Fate is what we begin to see inevitably shaping our whole lives. And with that being said, even though we've felt like we've lost something or someone, we've found what we've been missing and we bounce back. We were lost, but we were also found. =)