"Just Keep Swimming."

There comes a time in every gals life, where she needs to quit analyzing and looking back on the past, and start looking forward to a bright future and a new beginning ... Some individuals might say that holding on is what makes us strong, but letting go is what requires more strength. When it comes down to allowing the person that you love to exit your life, it's undeniably rough and tough. Moving on could take a very long time. However, once you finally free yourself from the shackles of distress that they have caused you, I guarantee in the end it's all for the best.

 

You're probably going to say, "It's easier said than done!" You'd be right, too ... It's easier to fixate on all your problems as opposed to confronting them head on. Recently, a friend of mine named Bella was in midst of a situation exactly like this. Although the efforts were valiant, she couldn't manage getting over her ex-boyfriend and I don't think she has yet, it's going to take time. All the aggravation, anxiety, depression, sorrow and stress that he has caused her, has not served as a help in the least bit. Her ex-boyfriend finished up an argument regarding to be friends or not to be by saying this, "...What am I supposed to do right now? You're lucky that friendship is even an option! I've never once offered this to any other girl that I have split up with." Needless to say, these words transpired because she confessed and expressed her hurt and pain, because shortly after splitting up he was right back to all of his flirtatious habits. I can understand her hurt. There was no adjustment period, it's almost as if what they had together meant squat to him, right before her very eyes on top of it all adding insult to something that's already terribly injured ... She's bawling her eyes out while he's out and about inspecting the goods of others, looking for somebody new already (A quick tip, refrain from putting yourself back up for grabs too soon, it's ADD in the making [Another Dating Disaster]). Once things had cooled off and Fifty Shades of Sad Gal later, Bella finally found the courage to lay it out on the table, and she didn't hold back. She said something along the lines of this, "...I'm still in love with you and you're the reason why I'm still hanging on." His prompt response said something along the lines of this, "...I'm terribly sorry, the feelings aren't mutual anymore, and faking it won't do either of us any good." This would be more emotional, but I'd like Bella to keep some privacy. Long story short, he stormed in, stole her heart and left her life a complete mess ... I'm pleasantly confident she has what it takes to pick up all of the pieces, reassemble her heart, and preserve it for somebody worthy of all the love that she has to give. However, him doing what he did makes it that much more challenging for her to move on from him, as it would anyone else.
 

After all of this said, it's presumably questionable letting a lover exit our lives is completely unwise. But all questions set aside, if they've overstayed their welcome and "I'm sorry" doesn't cut the cake, then it's for the best. It won't hurt letting go of the things preventing us from swimming. If you're not swimming then you are sinking and that's never good. I shall conclude with this - "When life keeps you down, you have to keep swimming, just keep swimming." It is better to have loved and lost, then to have never loved anyone at all. Although it aches to let the one you love go, so they can be happy, you'll find comfort in knowing that Karma will pay them a visit to serve them the heartbreak they once served to you. I wish all of you a great deal of luck in all of your relationships. Also, I  hope you will keep on swimming to find the path that leads you to the individual you're destined to be with.