"Back In The Day..."

I have got to thinking about relationships and my lack of posts. Well, I'm sorry for the big pause, but now, I am back on track.

Now. Let's get to thinking about relationships these days. People come and go like its their own business. It's always the nicest girls/guys who get screwed over the worst. People are getting more heartbroken, turning them into someone who now fears relationships. Now a days, people say "I love you" like they say "Hello". Yet after all of this, we all still fall into the same trap. The question is, why?

Most people can answer; and I didn't say answer wisely. You might hear the typical girl say something like, "We are in love. I love him, and Becky heard him say he has a little crush on me, hence, we should definitely be together! I mean, YOLO!"

Things have changed dramatically. As some things have remained, many have changed. Relationships are becoming less and less enjoyable as the hours pass and the days go on. People are afraid of being abused and hurt, over and over again (I would think most people), yet, we keep going back for what we already went through a hundred plus times. The question is, why? Why would we go through that again? Well, there are many answers, as I said earlier. (This is going to be a little different.) A person may be sad, depressed, etc., and they are just looking for someone to care for them, listen to them, and understand them. Another reason is simply because they haven't learned by now. Since relationships these days begin at such early stages such as fifth, fourth, or even third grade, which to me, is completly ridiculous. Just my opinion, nothing intended. Anyhow, there are other explanations, but let's not waste time trying to write them all. Anyhow, with my point being, relationships these days are going downhill faster and faster every day.

Sometimes, some of us may  think to ourselves, "Wow...I like him/her so much...but what if they're like the other people? I can't take the risk of getting hurt again...maybe I shouldn't do this..." just because of past experiences. And that's the problem with society today. It sucks. If there were a big "Welcome" sign when you enter the real world, it would probably say something like "Welcome to our generation. Here, you'll be judged on who you date, what you wear, where you shop, what music you like/listen to, who you are, what you do, and just about everything else. Enjoy your stay." and it's completly unnecessary and ridiculous. Things shouldn't be this way. That is another reason why people are so afraid to enter relationships or try something new. They mightnjust not want to deal with the pain again. Here's some advice: just do it. Don't even think about what other people will think of you. People should be encouraged and amazed on how you don't change to please others. By this, I mean don't be stuck up and annoying. Just be yourself. I know some of you may not want to believe this, but, trust me, through experience, being yourself is the best thing you can do. Lets say you like a kid named Lucas. You think he's amazing, smart, cute, funny, playful yet serious, and everything you've ever wanted. You just want to date him so bad, but everyone else dissagrees. Your friend may tell you that maybe he just wants attention or that she/he doesn't like him. That will most likely put a downpoint on your point of view, causing you to hide your feelings and keep it on the downlow, which will discourage you to date him. How would you solve this problem? The answer is simple. Ignore your friend. Don't be mean and totally wipe them off the face of your earth and just be like "Oh yeah they don't think Lucas is a good person so I just...pfft they're done, you know? Just...wiped them off the face of the earth you know? Be gone with them!" No...just stick to what you believe. Stand up and believe what you believe even if it means standing alone. Somewhere along that path you will meet someone who feels the same way.

Back in the day, things were much simpler. Relationships lasted longer because when something didn't work, you fixed it, not throw it away. Sure, there were bullies that would torment you or beat you up sometimes or friends who were actually backstabbing people, but it was to a certain extent. Of course there were big issues, but most of them did not result in suicide or cutting or other bad things. Now a days, people are taking their lives because of other people and because they just can't remain in the situation they are currently in. Here's some advice to that: Don't hurt yourself. Don't do anything you would later regret. God would never put you in a situation you couldn't handle. I don't want to get to much into that topic, but with my point being, stick to what you believe in. If you like him/her, tell him/her. Hearts are often broken by words that are unspoken. With that being said, I finish my blog with this: I hope you found this helpful, and I hope you would be able to use this in a current situation you may be in or in a future event or just about anything. That's all I have to say, and I hope you find this useful.