"Sometimes ... You just know, it's like magic, it is fate."
~ Charlotte York.

Wednesday, October 24, 2012

"Is One Really The Loneliest Number?"

When it comes to relationships, everyone thinks that they have to be in one. For example, let's say all of your friends and/or co-workers have boyfriends/girlfriends, and you are the only person who is single. Your first thought is "Wow...what's wrong with me? How come everyone else is in a relationship, but I'm not? Am I ugly? Am I not buff enough? Do I have too much acne?" The truth is, no, you're none of that. Not for nothing, everyone is beautiful in their own way. I'm not saying this to sugar coat a lemon, but in all honesty, I'm saying that everyone has those beauties which are amazing and wonderful to some, but may be a disgrace and turnoff to others. It just depends on if a person decides to focus on your imperfections or focus on your perfections.

Anyhow, while you might think that you belong in a relationship, most of the time that's not true. If you were truly meant to be in a relationship, then you would be. Think of it like this; would you rather be in a relationship where the two of you can be loving, respectful, and faithful towards eachother, or rush things and be in a relationship where there is no trust, faith, or feelings for one another? When you rush things, everything doesn't and probably won't turn out the way you want them to. Either you may not have a spark for that person, or you just don't trust that person. In the end, you'll probably just end up hurting the other person. That is, if that person had true and strong feelings for you.

In the end, sometimes it's best to just sit down, lay back, and enjoy life before you have to worry about what you're going to wear for that date on Friday night or if you should start going back to the gym every morning. Sometimes it's easier to just enjoy life while you still have your freedom. I'm not saying that being in a relationship limits your freedom, but it does put a few restrictions on it. So before you enter saddness mode about not having a relationship while everyone around you is currently in one, take the time to think: "Is that person really happy in that relationship? Does Julie really want to be with Chris? Is Mike being unfaithful towards Willow?" because sometimes, being one instead of two (single instead of taken), might just be better for you, and will most likely lead you to a great start in your future relationship!

4 comments:

  1. I don't what to say about this post, other than it is just so fabulous Annabella. There are really no words. Perfection!
    I really hope to see so much more from R.A.T.E.S! It's just outstanding and phenomenal, seriously...
    I have a request too... - Can you discuss how from your past relationships, you grow up and you truly find yourself? xoxo.
    -Marissa.

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  2. Spectacular!
    Annabella at her absolute best with flying colors owning it.
    I too have a request...Can you discuss what a gal should do in the event that her new boyfriend, is well terrible in bed?
    I'm experiencing that exact problem at the moment.
    -Yolanda. x. :)

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  3. "I'm not saying this to sugarcoat a lemon." Ha! Made my day...
    I do have a request, but I see you're already getting so many, but I'll request it anyway... - Could you talk about what a gal should do in the event her boyfriend is insecure because she makes more money than him?

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  4. Marissa, thank you! I try to do my best when it comes to advice. I will try to get that post out for you. As for Yolanda and whomever wrote the latest comment, I'm afraid I have no experience in those situations. After all I am a little too young to have done so, anyway. However, I do have a friend who can give you guys some advice. Here is her blog:
    sexsuburbs.blogspot.com
    Thanks for all the support!!
    xoxo,
    -Fello.

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